by Scott D. Hendricks
37. Stop pleasing yourself and you will not hate your brother; stop loving yourself and you will love God.
38. Once you have decided to share your life with spiritual brethren, renounce your own wishes from the start. Unless you do this, you will not be able to live peaceably either with God or with your brethren.
~ St. Maximus the Confessor
G.E.H. Palmer and Philip Sherrard and Kallistos Ware trans., The Philokalia: the complete text, vol. 2 (New York: Faber and Faber, 1981), 104-105.